My Walks of Life

It is just around the corner!

We`re heading back to Sitiawan tomorrow morning, Insya Allah. Anyway, everything haven`t packed all yet, the cookies and the baju raya especially. we`re going to flash on blue-green out fit on the 1st eid and the second eid will be on orange theme:). my princess is very lucky this year since I shopped 7 pairs of new outfit for her versus abir`s whom got merely 4 pairs. (not being berat sebelah, ok? but the girls`s fashion is so tempted!) huhu...the locum`s pay i received is totally spent on the kids outfit.yoohoo!

So, the next plan is to head to Kulim on 2 nd day eid. Insya Allah. and surely the itenary would be visiting tok bah in Alor Setar. Waah...can`t wait to eat her delicious `ketupat palas`..creamy!

We would love to wish all of you "Selamat Hari Raya Aidilfitri" and Maaf Zahir Batin. Have a nice and safe journey:)

Ramadhan were pretty challenging this week, it was sizzling hot. i noticed that the car odometer displayed 39.9`c on wednesday afternoon.masya Allah!..same temperature in mecca likely. i was suffering from flu and mouth ulcers, precipitating.flu could leads to extra loss of fluid and this mouth ulcers..aaahh..it really bite particularly on dry lips.like i say, very very challenging.

angah and family were here on nuzul Quran holiday.had delicious iftar with ancho`s team too.we did spent the afternoon on buddies chatting as usual. angah informed that he just applied for SLAB scholarship with UPSI. Hope he manage to get the offer...shall means their family will be flying to australia next february :)

yesterday, despite of the hot weather.. and abir was still on his training for fasting.., we couldn`t broke our promise to bring the kids to the TUDM museum in Sg. Besi. Was not really appropriate for a fasting trainee surely..as Abir ran all the way from one aircraft to the other, jumping, hopping like a rabbit. at the end, at lunch time..he asked for rice, ribena etc once we reached home.

however, we ushered him to his cousin`s house downstairs. that would hindered his mind off from food definitely. he came back around 5pm, when our house aura were smelled with freshly-baked raya cookies. again, this triggered him. after few attempts of stealing the cookies..DH tug him to bed finally. pity boy! anyhow, we have to woke him up at 6pm as we were going for iftar at my aunt`s house. he couldn`t woke up, really looked bad right then, (the battery was totally ran-out, i guess) he soon started to cry and begging for water and cookie. pity enough DH finally permitted him:) so, there he goes..fasting up to 6.15pm.

oooh..about the cookies.., my wishlist this year is to bake 6 typess of them (cornflakes blueberry,italian biscotti,swiss croquettes,almond pop choclate, strawbery lovely & oat cappucino), 2 cheesecakes (Choc cheesecake & blueberry cheesecake) and 1 choc moist cake. yesterday i baked the cornflakes blueberry and today is swiss croquettes.it is flavoured with chunks of cherries, almond slices and lemon peel :)

Suppose to post this before Ramadhan begins..

anyway, its not too late.We got this checklist every year from our usrah group. thought would be nice if can share it and we can reach the target together.

Here it goes :-

Remember those days, where we are only on`study` duty? where we could follow those checklist very closely? i still could recall the time when we was that very very very close to the target.it was back in 1990`s when i was in SMKA Sultan Azlan Shah, Perak. we had these strict ustazah warden whom ensure everyone maximize the Ramadhan offer. surely, those performance was dropping by years..(particularly me), once got to SERATAS and later UKM, eventually started working. bachelor days was pretty good, i would say.we still ought to allocate the time.not to complain on being a wife and mother now..ok? it is a matter of discussing the reality and how the time management fails.

since got married, alhamdulillah ..both of us soon realized of the under k.p.i performance ibadah in Ramadhan especially the tilawah. the other task were well-tolerated. we came up to this idea : what we did was we opt for dividing the AlQuran tilawah task ie 15 chapters each. and, it did work in achieving almost 90%. In total, we finally able to khatam the Quran tilawah in Ramadhan for the family.

Dear Allah, Grant us best of health and peace of life in our strive to accumulate points in the blessed month of Ramadhan.Amiin.

hmm..i`m not actually expert in this as i`m only a mom of two. anyway, experience counts surely. not only that every child is unique, they reacts to our says and mothers` instinct differently too. being someone who works at the hospital, whom mingles with pediatricians and nurses.. our daily chat during lunch would definitely on child-care, kids behaviour and of course tips on this and that. we have a weekly CME (continuous medical education) at the hall, where every personel had to give talks on any medical & health issue. i wouldn`t missed those talks from pediatric and O&G department. still remembered attending to a talk entitled "Mom, I`m WET" which was on nocturnal eneuresis a.k.a kencing malam.

So, the idea is there is no cut-off limit or strict rules on it. It is all about the maturation on the childs` urine system. it does differs from one to another. anyway, the most age of children to achieve this is 7 years old. so, don`t worry if your kids still wetting the bed & diapers. and, the other thing is previous studies showed that boys do achieve the urine maturation later than girls. (yet, this particularly not true in some cases), again don`t blame at the genetic. Next factor is of course, heridatary. means what, if you were having those problems when you were kids, then your child will have it by 50%, if both of you and hubby..then the risk is increasing.

i started potty-trained my kids when they marked 2 years old.look for their eady signs like they can start to talk and say "kencing or shee shee etc". and sign that they don`t like wear diaper. remember to make your mission in step-wise manner. for me, i gave them certain months period of each phase of diapers-free : -

1st phase :1 to 3 months

day time only during wake hours,which they are alert (diaper-on the nap hours and at night sleep).bring them to toilet every 2 hours, (say "masa untuk kencing, or pee..etc" whether they really pee or not at the bowl. i`d tried the potty, but both my kids just don`t like it.they prefer the real bowl to pee.so, let them.please do not scold them when they have the accidents. motivate and rationalize by showing them the urine is stinky etc.

proceed this if your child already master the 1st pahse. diapers free at day time and now including the nap hours, lay a plastic sheet during nap, but still put on diaper at night time. start talking to them before sleep, while putting the diaper on that they shall tell you when wanted to pee just like during day-time. say that "kencing diapers mcm baby, bau busuk etc". later, you will notice they will start having less-weight diaper the next morning, or sometimes, the diaper is dry.

no diaper totally day and night. but, lay the plastic sheet in case. make their tummy fulled during dinner, water and milk limits to 9pm. don`t let them sleep while taking milk together. ask them to pee after 9pm every 1/2 hour until they ready to sleep. wake them up at least once during night ie 3am.make sure they really wakes-up, alert, walk is even better, eventhough they cry& fussy."say..jom kencing, nanti katil basah,seluar basah kalau tak kencing"if you take them, while they are still sleeping & unconscious..then, its useless.they will pee definitely at the toilet, but it is as if they are peeing at the bed.do this everyday.Aufa reached this milestone in 1 months, while Abir striked 6 months. yet he had been having few night-accidents once in a blue moon until he got the khatan done.Lega..

Finally...remember, to praise and encourage even on accidents.

its 4th of Ramadhan today. Not bad ..

the weather is good for fasting, i would say.chills..cloudy..raining every single day. but, not good for the traffic definitely. i`m suppose to score 30 days full fasting this year. insya Allah. so far, there`s only one problem. i couldn`t stand still more than 10 minutes. started to see those black spider webs. i`d attempt to tarawikh at the mosque on the 2nd night, having thought that i might be okay since already break fasting, yet it wasn`t been better. so, decided to perform tarawikh at home this year.huhu.:( the other thing is, had this locum offer for 3 months that i couldn`t say no. anyway, its only for 5 hours a day, and thinking on the $**** that i earn will goes to medela swing and raya shopping.

abir was so excited to fast on the 1st day that he managed to fast from 11am-7pm.anyway, when school resumes, he joined his `kanak-kanak tak posa` team. his kumon performance was deteriorating lately.noticed he has been so imaginative all the time, or should i say..."mengelamun di siang hari?" once in a while, it really tests the parents` nerves.

aufa, aside from getting new friends..and being famous of her `bersolek` theme among them..she have been diapers free at night-time too for almost a month now. so..no more diapers on the groceries list. she is 3 years and 5 months tomorrow.

by the way, my usrah tamar aula project is doing great..., 4 boxes left. the profit will contribute to the needy muslim.Insya Allah.

okay..aufa is nagging for "jom tidur"

Salam Ramadhan.